“We’re all in the fairway,” I said recently during one of our golf league outings after we all had teed off. I followed it up with this question: “When was the last time that happened?” No one responded with a legitimate guess, not wanting to rack our minds that hard. Instead, we reveled in the display of perfection. For one glorious moment, we had found direction, and being only the second hole of the night—the round seemed to have promise.
However, several holes later I was saying this. “I’ll focus on direction next week.” That had become my mantra—letting one bad shot or one bad hole lead to several more. No matter how many times I tried to will myself to think positively, I let doubt win out.
Golf is a lot of things—but it’s not about hitting a ball. It’s about your swing—and there’s lots of different swings for different shots. Hence, why frustration is at the top of the list of things golf is. You need consistency and direction with your swing to be successful.
But a few weeks ago, something changed. I started the first hole with a bogey, followed by a par on a long par five. Then came the moment of truth on the next hole—a par three—my achilles heel. To my surprise, it was another par!
As I managed to keep up my improved play, I couldn’t help but wonder what was making the difference. Was it the 90+ degree temperature and little breeze helping to torch my play? The other members of my group weren’t playing any differently. The only reason that made any sense was that my cart buddy was absent that week. I was able to focus all of my attention on the game without letting myself get distracted by conversation.
That’s another thing golf is—a social sport. It’s one of the big reasons I continue to play. Now, that doesn’t mean that I’m incapable of playing well when I socialize—historically that hasn’t been the case for me. But this summer has been a little different. My cart buddy happens to be my younger sister, and she’s getting married next month—which means a lot of what we talk about when we’re golfing is her wedding. Neither one of us is very focused on golf when we’re talking about that stressful subject. (It’s not really stressful for me. She’s been stressed from all the planning).
That day I played my best round of golf in the past several years. Not every shot was perfect—but rather than let myself get upset and let the bad get worse—I let it go. Life is easier when you can just let things be.
I also realized that I needed to stop putting certain things on hold. This blog for one—admittedly I haven’t kept up with it as often as I had initially planned—but it’s summer and there have been other things to do—like throw my golf clubs when I get upset and getting tan! I needed to stop allowing distractions—those errant golf shots—cloud my progress.
All kidding aside, I’ve been putting something important off for some time. Some delays have been out of my control. Others have been sort of like my standard tee off shot—fading off to the right in the wrong fairway then wasting too much time searching for it.
Either way, I’m now ready to share it with the world—my first novel.
The book—a romantic comedy—is called “Wedding under Fire,”the first in the series “Friendly Fire.” It will be released this Thursday on Amazon. In short, the contemporary romance is about four young women who struggle with love—or a lack thereof—in the weeks leading up to a wedding. Secrets, heartbreak, and surprised abound.
It’s loosely based on the events leading up to my younger sister’s wedding next month. Ok, it’s not, really. I promise everything will go smoothly with her wedding—I make no such promise in “Wedding under Fire.”
If you’re interested, look for it on Amazon. You can also check my Facebook page for more info. I will be releasing parts of the first few chapters on my Facebook page prior to the release if you want to get a head start.